The date with the new guy has come and gone. He did everything right, technically. If I had been into him, the date would've been a great one. But I didn't know him very well so it was a little too much, too soon, for me.
I spent a few hours analyzing the breakdown after I got home. I decided there are two ways to approach a date, and he and I took opposite approaches. One approach is to go into the date thinking "Hey, I don't know this person very well, but I'll invest a few hours and see what happens." The other approach is "I like this person. I'm going to go to dinner with him or her and have a boyfriend or girlfriend at the end of the night."
It was apparent during the date that he had been thinking about this date since way before he asked me out. It was apparent because he was able to recall details from every time we'd seen each other -- details I had never noticed or even thought twice about. Awkward.
The part I hate most about dating is when you don't feel a connection to someone (the grown-up way of saying you just don't "like" them the way they "like" you) and you have to break that to them. It was a debacle in this case! Long story short, he is apparently no longer speaking to me. Which kind of pisses me off because he said a few times he would like to spend time together as friends even if we didn't go on another actual date. Obviously, he was just saying that to see if would see him again. Of course, I couldn't legitimately be too pissed because I had said the same thing to The Heartbreaker.
Dating sucks. I am over it.
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